Updated: Oct 6
Asexuality is a sexual orientation that often goes misunderstood or unacknowledged in mainstream culture. While some may assume everyone experiences sexual attraction, asexuality is an actual identity worthy of recognition and understanding.
What is Asexuality?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation in which an individual does not experience sexual attraction or has little to no interest in engaging in sexual activities. This differs from celibacy, which involves making a conscious decision not to engage in such acts; rather, asexuality exists as an inherent part of one's identity.
Asexuality is a spectrum, and those who identify as asexual may experience varying degrees of sexual attraction or interest. Some may feel no attraction at all while others only occasionally or under specific circumstances.
It's essential to note that asexuality is distinct from low libido or sexual dysfunction. While some identify as asexual and may experience low libido or other sexual health issues, asexuality itself remains an accepted sexual orientation and not a disorder or dysfunction.
Asexuality is a complex and nuanced identity that may be difficult for some to comprehend. To gain an insight and understand it better, try to approach this topic with an open mind.
One common misconception about asexuality is that individuals cannot experience romantic attraction. In reality, many of those identify as asexual experience romantic attraction. The difference is, they may not experience sexual attraction or have little interest in engaging in sexual activities.
Another misconception about asexuality is that it's an emotional phase or result of trauma or negative experiences. Asexuality is an entirely natural sexual orientation, not caused by trauma or negative experiences.
Sex Therapy and Asexuality: What Roles Can They Play Together?
Although asexuality is an identity that should not be overlooked, it can present challenges for individuals and couples who experience it. For example, those who identify as asexual may struggle in romantic relationships with partners who experience sexual attraction or feel pressured into engaging in activities they’re not interested in.
Sex therapy can be a very helpful resource for individuals and couples struggling with asexuality who need support and direction. Trained sex therapists offer an accepting atmosphere where clients can explore their sexual identity, desires, and strategies for successfully navigating both sexual and romantic relationships.
Sex therapists provide tools and techniques for communicating openly and honestly with partners, setting boundaries, and creating strategies to maintain intimacy and connection within the relationship.
While some asexual people may have little interest in sexual activity, others may be curious about exploring it non-traditionally. Sex therapists provide support in exploring desires and boundaries, as well as strategies for communicating these needs with partners.
Selecting a Sex Therapist
If you are thinking about trying sex therapy as an exploration of asexuality, make sure your therapist is experienced, qualified, and suitable for your needs, consider booking a consultation with Dr. Navneet Kaur, who is certified by the Modern Sex Therapy Institute and in the process of becoming a nationally certified sex therapist by AASECT.
Selecting a therapist who provides a safe and nonjudgmental space to explore your sexuality is paramount. Look for professionals who prioritize comfort, consent, and autonomy; additionally, they should be willing to collaborate with you on developing treatment plans together.